How Mentorship has Impacted Me
During the Covid-19 confinement, I was able to have the opportunity to connect to an individual that had the life I wanted. Within 2 months, my professional, personal and emotional life has dramatically changed. Basically when you have the right coach and mentor by your side, your progress is 100x faster. Not even joking. I think I have improved 26 times faster than I would have alone.
The way I met this person was sort of in a circuitous way. For some reason, I was watching a YouTube video of a woman who lost a lot of weight, and she said she did the #75hard program by Andy Frisella. This multi-millionaire entrepreneur talked about the habits that make and create people who want to win and succeed in life. It was a mental toughness challenge in the end, not a physical fitness challenge. I was drinking 4 liters of water a day, worked out twice a day 45 minutes each time (once outdoors) read 10 pages of a book, and followed a diet. Seems easy right? First week was fine but it is very difficult to get to 75 days. For me, the hardest part was literally the second workout and the water. And many days it was the water that killed me. I had to start over many times and I still have not fully finished the challenge.
I know for many others it would be the food that killed them – but fortunately I have been living a no-sugar no-gluten lifestyle for health reasons for many years so that was not the hardest.
It was getting that water down. My partner thought I was insane. Some days I felt so sick I thought I was getting water poisoning. But now that I have stopped it, I really wish I was doing it again – drinking enough water solved SO many of my problems – energy, the munchies, headaches, digestion – for other people sinus problems and a whole host of other problems went away. Another huge benefit of #75hard – it finally got me to get back into a fitness routine!
But most of all – it made me think about levelling up. And leaving excuses behind. And doing things you don’t feel like doing, but doing it anyways. CONSISTENTLY. Your self-esteem grows when you do the things you said you were going to do. The promise to yourself.
But it is way, way easier and I would say nearly impossible without a coach by your side. Andy Frisella mentioned Tim S. Grover in his podcast about the #75hard mental toughness challenge, and his book called Relentless. Grover was the guy that made MJ MJ ! (Michael Jordan for you guys). He was also Kobe’s coach.
So I went to Grover’s page and signed up for his mentorship and coaching program. I think it was $5000 or something. I actually never got a response.
But I think just putting the intention out there led me to reconnect with a woman I met in my hometown of California a few years ago. I had no idea what was happening at the time, but this journey I have been on since she’s taken me under her wing has just allowed me to tackle all the aspects of my life I didn’t even know I needed to work on! I am 500x more positive and more efficient – I realized I was wasting a lot of negative emotional energy on situations I could not control.
And I now actually practice the Progress not Perfection motto. The need for perfection prevented me from even trying or having fun with casual activities like pool, bowling or beach volleyball. The deep shame of failure when I didn’t achieve was just too much to shoulder.
I have practiced yoga for over 20 years. Both my mother and younger sister are yoga instructors. I have also led classes in the past – for guests board luxury yachts where I was a private chef, and in my own organic cafe in the south of France: www.GrazeCafe.fr.
I am very flexible and can perform many advanced poses, but for some reason, I am not able to perform a full chatharanga to this day (for yoga novices, it’s that plank to tricep pushups). And I can barely do a headstand. And because I was so embarrassed about this, I wouldn’t even really try.
But since having a high-level mentor by my side, who has the life I want, who herself has been honed and trained by other multi-millionaire entrepreneurs, I have been doing a little tiny bit each day on my chatharanga with confidence and no self-judgment or criticism. Because I have learned the essential law of progress – The Compound Effect. The way results work is 1% at a time, a little bit everyday, to build momentum, until a snowball effect occurs.
That is what happened with me on headstands. I avoided them for so long, but then I just started doing it – even though I didn’t believe – a little kick a few times a week until one day my legs magically floated in the air. It was crazy. But that’s how it’s done. It’s the classic story of the tortoise and the hare – slow and steady wins the race!